Have you ever wondered why so much of what is not said seems to be truth?
I’ve been sitting here pondering this after the last session where my client was torturing herself over not saying something so fundamentally necessary. This is usually because we are afraid of losing someone.
In my experience, it seems that those we are afraid of losing this way are the people we should not really be afraid to lose. If you have caused hurt, I want to be able to say, and if you are not willing to accept your part in the equation, perhaps it is time we parted ways. Holding back truth for fear we may be left, seems like a terrible idea. You are enough as you are, you do not need another’s approval or presence to be enough. Maybe we need to surround ourselves with people who want to hear the truth and who give us truth in return. I guess we need to accept ourselves first and let go of the need for the cloudy mirror we have given to others in our lives.
The truth does not have to hurt, we can be gentle, compassionate even, but give ourselves to honesty and authenticity and others may not wish to meet us there; so let them miss out.
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